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A Kind of Sunshine

Ralph Waldo Emerson once said: “It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them.”

I agree with Emerson that friendships that we have been able to establish and nurture for years allow us such freedom. The friends we have made and known as far back in time know and understand us. And I believe we should do our best to keep them through the varied seasons of life. While the quantity of time we spend with these precious friends will have to change after we walk down the aisle, this shouldn’t mean that we leave these friendships behind.

Friendships and the Married Life.Β I have known a number of married women who expect all their relational needs to be met just by their husband. Frankly speaking, our husbands are men and they will not be able to relate to us like our women friends do. Yes, we can make our husbands our best friends but we should be realistic to take note that they will not always (if ever) think, see, feel or express things as women do. Our partner in life is uniquely created by God as male, not female πŸ™‚

If you want to go shopping for clothes, see the concert of your favorite female artist, have the urge to talk for hours — think about spending time with your friends. Husbands, well, at least, according to mine, do not enjoy waiting for hours as we try different clothes and ask him what he thinks. He will have patience for one or two outfits but more than that, it’s torture. Just imagine how you would feel if he brings you to a boxing match (unless you love boxing), maybe you can stand a round or two or maybe even one match. But a series of matches in one day? Well, at least not me. I don’t have the energy to watch all those exchange of punches, occasional blood and lots of sweat.

A Kind of Sunshine. I have moved to 4 cities (including one outside my country) in the past 4 decades of my life. And one of the challenging things to do is to make new friendships and to keep in touch with the old ones. Thankfully, with the advent of social media and much improved technology, I now have better opportunities to keep in touch with friends who are based in different cities, countries. It’s good to have friends. It’s good to know that they not only bring a kind of sunshine in your life but you are also bringing that to them πŸ™‚

Join My Friend’s 11th Wedding Anniversary Blog Contest!

Dear hubby and I will be celebrating our “11th” year wedding anniversary this coming November 30th. Eleven years of blissful marriage. We’re blessed with two adorable kids, a girl (born on December 2nd) and a boy (born on November 10th). And to celebrate, Nita’s Random Thoughts hosted a fun contest for everyone to enjoy!

6 (six) winners of leather bracelets (view here)

1 (one) brand new Treviso shoulder bag (view here)

1 (one) winner of handmade tutu (view here)

1 (one) winner of handmade Max & Ruby pinwheel hair bow – about 4″ (view here)

1 (one) winner of handmade Justin Bieber twisted boutique bow – about 5″ from spikes to spikes (view here)

Sponsors are also welcome to join the contest. Good luck to everyone!

Giveaway will run from November 18th at 12:01am (EST) to December 31th at 12:01am (EST). Announcement of winners will be on January 1st. Winners will be drawn using Rafflecopter.

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What Makes Your Marriage Thrive?

Four years ago today, I said yes to a lifetime commitment. Today, my husband and I continue to build a marriage that satisfies us, that hopefully blesses others and one that glorifies God, the ultimate Author of marriages.

Reaching the state of our married life which I would say is a happy one has not always been easy. Along with the joys are the numerous adjustments, disagreements and yes, the weaknesses. Β As for me and my husband, the following have helped us in our journey as a couple:

1. Acceptance and Contentment. Married life is certainly different when my husband and I were still dating each other. In the confines of our home, we see realities in each other that we do not know before. This is where acceptance and contentment comes in. It is also acknowledging that what we are and what we have is enough for each other πŸ™‚

2. Understanding and adjustment. In reality, no relationship can survive without the involved parties seeking to understand and then to adjust to each other. Certainly, we see the importance of these two in marriage. Understanding and adjustment needs to be practised by both husband and wife, not just by one partner.


3. Communication. For understanding to happen, there has to be communication. This was something that my husband and I had to really learn πŸ™‚ Β For us to be understood we needed to make the effort to speak and to express what is on our minds and of course, make the effort to listen. And this is not Β easy. It’s easier to shut off (this is usually my husband) or argue (that’s usually me!!) than to make the effort to really communicate πŸ™‚

4. Humor. There has to be room for lots of laughter in marriage. My husband and I share jokes with each other. And when we find something funny online, we make a point to show it to each other. It takes away tension and stress πŸ™‚

5. Faith in God. And last but not the least, what has made our marriage strong is our faith in God. I believe that if we only think of marriage as a commitment to each other, it would not be enough. A shared commitment to God, a joint faith in Him has been a necessary foundation for us. It has been essential for us in our journey as a couple.

Now what about you? If you are married, what has helped your marriage survive and thrive? πŸ™‚