Ralph Waldo Emerson once said: “It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them.”
I agree with Emerson that friendships that we have been able to establish and nurture for years allow us such freedom. The friends we have made and known as far back in time know and understand us. And I believe we should do our best to keep them through the varied seasons of life. While the quantity of time we spend with these precious friends will have to change after we walk down the aisle, this shouldn’t mean that we leave these friendships behind.
Friendships and the Married Life. I have known a number of married women who expect all their relational needs to be met just by their husband. Frankly speaking, our husbands are men and they will not be able to relate to us like our women friends do. Yes, we can make our husbands our best friends but we should be realistic to take note that they will not always (if ever) think, see, feel or express things as women do. Our partner in life is uniquely created by God as male, not female 🙂
If you want to go shopping for clothes, see the concert of your favorite female artist, have the urge to talk for hours — think about spending time with your friends. Husbands, well, at least, according to mine, do not enjoy waiting for hours as we try different clothes and ask him what he thinks. He will have patience for one or two outfits but more than that, it’s torture. Just imagine how you would feel if he brings you to a boxing match (unless you love boxing), maybe you can stand a round or two or maybe even one match. But a series of matches in one day? Well, at least not me. I don’t have the energy to watch all those exchange of punches, occasional blood and lots of sweat.
A Kind of Sunshine. I have moved to 4 cities (including one outside my country) in the past 4 decades of my life. And one of the challenging things to do is to make new friendships and to keep in touch with the old ones. Thankfully, with the advent of social media and much improved technology, I now have better opportunities to keep in touch with friends who are based in different cities, countries. It’s good to have friends. It’s good to know that they not only bring a kind of sunshine in your life but you are also bringing that to them 🙂